Saturday, April 21, 2007
Topic: ‘This house believes that divorce is a social ill.’ Do you agree?
Reasons for Divorce:
• Not suitable for each other.
• Arguments and disagreements.
• Fewer children to sustain marriage.
• Violence in the family.
• Better Education
• Values, Attitude and Behavior changes.
• Finance and high expectations.
Consequences for Divorce:
• Emotional baggage (both parents and children).
• Uncertainty and confusion of situation (children).
• Inability for the new environment (children).
• Development of psychological barrier towards marriage.
• Negative impact on work productivity.Labels: Divorce
Thursday, April 19, 2007
To me divorce is a social ill. Nowadays,there are alot of young married couple divorcing. To divorce seemed to be a childish act. Alot of consideration shall be made before their marriage. Couples should actually try their best to make their marriage a sweet and lasting one.
REASONS FOR DIVORCE:
-Many young couples took the decision to get married and after their marriage, they found out that they are not unsuitable for each other. Thus,this resulted in divorce.
-The adults are very busy with their work.They would feel very tired and stressed once they reached home. A little disagreement between couples could spark off a great agruement. As this continued, it will lead to divorce too.
-Couples don't give birth to children as much as before. Thus there is no children to help to hold the marriage.
-Another point is family problems. Some wife will get abuse by her husband due to some problem. To add on to the above point, i think that it is necessary for the wife to divorce with her husband if she gets abused.
To conclude my above points,i think that divorce cases is increasing due to the arising family problems.Couples do not have enough time for one another to maintain their relationship.This will cause the couples to drift away from one another.
-GLADYSLabels: Divorce
'This house believes that divorce is a social ill.' Do you agree?
I agree that divorce is a social illness. Young married couple, especially in developed countries, are breaking up under the strain of making a living in the fast-paced abd high-cost city. Divorce rates across the world have risen sharply in the recent years with greater exposure to Western values. Most countries are actually witnessing changing attitudes towards the once-taboo topic of divorce.
Women increasingly have no qualms about walking out on a marriage, and this trend is especially evident in Shanghai. More than sixty per cent of the city's divorce proceedings in 2004 were initiated by the wife. This is more than double the national average of thirty per cent.
Reasons for divorce:
Money problems and unrealistic expectations
Women turn to divorce when they think their husbands gave failed to meet their expectations. which are getting higher and higher. Money disputes often spark rifts. Women are now getting more independent both financially and mentally. If their spouses cannot meet their expectations, they can just file for a divorce.
Better education
Divorce cases often happen when one feels that one's partner is not earning as much money as one with the qualification one's partner is holding, divorce would be brought up. The reason for this act is that one might feel that one's partner is unable to catch up with one and therefore, breaking up their once sweet love.
Fewer children to hold marriage together
According to psychologists, staying in an uhappy marriage is psychologically damaging. Staying for the children's sake is ultimately not in their interest or anyone else's. Some people feel that they would be better off living than staying in a marriage for the sake of their children.
Values, Attitude, Behaviour change
One may change one's values, attitude and behavior after years or even months after they got into their marriage lives. One's spouses might not be able to accept the sudden change in the others, and after suffering under it, one decides to bring up the matter of divorce.
Dual-income Family
Less time for each other and children. People nowadays are so focused on making money and going after their wants that they feel that work is more important than their families. When they spend lesser time with their families and more time on work, divorce might be a solution for them to be freed from the only 'tied-down' reason they have.
- AngelaLabels: Divorce
Divorce has been a rampant plague in the society. The latest statistics is unbelievable!! The odds are that 1 out of every 2 marriages will fail! Many relationships these days in the world do not even enter a "marriage" state - people just live together until they get sick of each other.
The cost to society is enormous as the prevalence of a single parenthood will cause the children to experience emotional brunt of a divorce at such a tender age. They are unlikely to cope with the cold heart fact that they have to witness the separation of their loves ones. Over the years, it may develop a psychological barrier that will hinder the child of stepping into a love relationship with the other sex. Also, the pain and suffering inflicted continues long after a divorce is finalized.
Also, broken couples have to undergo a torrid period of time to pick themselves up after divorcing which may cause a significant impact on their work productivity. Emotionally and mentally, they might be too traumatized and they will start to produce sub-standard quality work. Hence it will affect the whole society as a whole. Therefore i strongly agree the fact that divorce is a social ill that will cause devastating effects to the society.
AlfoneLabels: Divorce
Divorce has been a rampant plague in the society. The latest statistics is unbelievable!! The odds are that 1 out of every 2 marriages will fail! Many relationships these days in the world do not even enter a "marriage" state - people just live together until they get sick of each other.
The cost to society is enormous as the prevalence of a single parenthood will cause the children to experience emotional brunt of a divorce at such a tender age. They are unlikely to cope with the cold heart fact that they have to witness the separation of their loves ones. Over the years, it may develop a psychological barrier that will hinder the child of stepping into a love relationship with the other sex. Also, the pain and suffering inflicted continues long after a divorce is finalized.
Also, broken couples have to undergo a torrid period of time to pick themselves up after divorcing which may cause a significant impact on their work productivity. Emotionally and mentally, they might be too traumatized and they will start to produce sub-standard quality work. Hence it will affect the whole society as a whole. Therefore i strongly agree the fact that divorce is a social ill that will cause devastating effects to the society.Labels: Divorce
Divorce, a social ill?
Divorce, although is a personal matter between a couple, but the people around them will naturally be affected too. Especially their child/children. Indeed the parents will go through emotional problems, but they are after all adults and will be able to handle their problems with maturity and more logically. Whereas children will experience a larger emotional turmoil. The following are some perspectives on the view of children in a divorcing family.
- The child knows nothing will ever be the same again. His old life routine will have a big change, and he might have that mistake notion that the breakup is somehow his fault. He will then try to "be good", hoping that the effect put in will stop the (inevitable)seperation
- Afraid that either parent will abandon him. Losing one parent is already enough, the child will fear that he will also lose the other. The idea of being alone in the world is very frightening for a child.
- After divorce, the child might have to move away. He naturally arelady has a sense of attachment towards the house, the school, his friends, his pets, his bed, his pillow etc etc etc. Yet he has to adapt to a new environment, which is understandable if he has negative emotions against adapting.
- Some parents might try to turn their child against the other spouse, and the child is now caught in the middle, unsure of what to do and what to say anymore.
All these have different impacts on different children. Some might grow up fearing commitment, for they do not want to end up like their parents. Children in a single parent family sometimes lack love and care from either one side of the parent or even both. That can result into improper upbringing. He can turn defiant and aggressive, or fall into depression. This can affect his academic performace, and if he will to eventually give up on his studies at a low education level and be stagnant there, he will definitely have problem finding jobs and feed himself in the future. If he finally decides to give up, he will become a burden to the society.
With divorce rates increasing in Singapore, it is considered as a norm to hear that certain parents are divorced. If 1 out of 5 divorce families have children that walks onto the wrong path, Singapore will be facing major trouble. Even if not, these children grow up to be emotionally scarred, and it will definitely affect their thinking or character in some manner. Therefore it is important for parents not to neglect their childrens' feelings.
I'M SOONG a:Labels: Divorce
Monday, April 16, 2007
"This house believes that divorce is a social ill." Do you agree?
Dear group mates, please blog about the above mentioned topic. Entries to be in by Thursday (19th April 2007) 10pm. I will do a blog summary before printing out. Entries that are late will not be included in the hard copy.Labels: Divorce
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